In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re highlighting local moms who are kicking ass while balancing family and career.
We’re excited to introduce Aicha Balde, who moved to the United States from Guinea, West Africa nine years ago to pursue her education. She started documenting her journey from Africa to America, from being a girl to a woman, a wife to a mother, through beautiful images.
Now, nine years later she’s still pursuing her education and love of fashion, travel, and all things motherhood, on her lifestyle blog, Tales & Turbans. Learn how she does it all.
As an entrepreneur, what are some of the challenges you face as it relates to balancing your wellness journey?
It’s hard to balance life in general. You get so busy that it sometimes becomes overwhelming. Balancing parenthood with entrepreneurship can feel like an impossible load. It feels like your responsibilities to consume your whole life. Wellness often takes a backseat. Everything else seems more important. Life has a way of making it seem like deadlines are more crucial than your well-being. I don’t know if it’s this culture of time and timeliness that puts us in constant, “GO” mode, but I often get caught up in my responsibilities. I struggle with managing my time, with separating work from home, and most importantly, remembering my value. I know I need to work on my wellness if I want to give the best to all of my jobs.
How do you incorporate wellness into your kids’ lives?
I think as parents we try to give our kids everything we had and some of the things we didn’t. I love exploring farmer’s markets and walking around my City, which was all great things for my health and well-being. However, I didn’t know how to care for my mental and social well-being. Wellness for my kids for me means, everything from trying to get them to bed early and consistently, keeping them hydrated and eating well-balanced meals, and caring for their emotional well-being by making sure we say sorry and talk about our feelings.
What does wellness mean to you? What tips would you give other moms who may be struggling with creating a balance between motherhood and wellness?
To me, wellness means caring for myself in ways that allow me to have a clear mind, a healthy relationship with my body, and mental tranquility. I think it’s imperative to take a minute for yourself, even if it’s just a few moments of quiet time occasionally. Do I have this down? Not in the slightest! Some days are better than others though and the challenge is appreciating the times when I have it together. I would say one of the best things you can do is to remember that you are enough. Have a schedule that helps you lay out each of your responsibilities so they don’t seem as overwhelming. Take time for yourself, even if it’s a once a month mani-pedi or a full day of getting lost in a book. Remember that you are important.
What does a mother mean to you?
I named one of my daughters after my mother because she is the strongest, most caring, woman, I know. It’s so weird to me how we all feel like we’re failing as moms, and yet, that’s not what defines us at all. When I think of my mom, my first thought is never, “Oh my gosh, she didn’t spend enough time with me when I was three.” I think about how she cared for me when I was sick; how she supported me whenever I fell; and how she continues to guide me in adulthood. When I think of my mother, I think of my foundation.